yeah i feel that problem, the only way you are aware of a new message is when u leave the sounds on (the most annoying sounds ever). More then once i've been chatting to someone while watching a youtube vid only to notice the little orange speach bubble after a while and when i click back to the convo it's basically:
so what do you think?
ARE YOU STILL THERE??????
*the contact appears to be offline*
Stupid sexy flanders!
PM me for my PSN