Originally Posted by mauiblue
Bullying comes to mind if this is out of character of your son. Maybe someone in school is giving him a hard time. The teacher could also be the root of the situation or could shed some light on the issue. Many variables that needs to be sought out and confronted. Go easy on the boy and hope you and your wife the best.
I hate how one of the first places people look to blame is the teacher....
Have a teacher conference
lose the bookbag. Serious. If he's having organizational issues, or trying to hide them, get him a folder for each subject and let him carry that, no bookbag. Until he can prove he can handle a bookbag.
use a daily planner... What I mean is, have him write down his assignments and homework. Have him get teacher to sign it at the end of the day where she can also note behavior, or upcoming assignments. but here's the tricky part where most parents fail.... the first time he "forgets" to get it signed, you better have, and follow through with major consequences. Honestly, even if he's a good kid, he will test you on the planner.
Make him bring home all his books everyday. Yes, he can carry all 4 subject books without a bookbag.
ok, that is stuff teachers will suggest and they do work.... I will add the stuff a teacher wants to tell you, but can't....
time to step up DAD.... I notice one of the first things you did was make an excuse why you can't do something (working sun-up to sun-down) You know, I hate it for ya, but maybe you should have thought about it before knocking up your wife 11 years ago. MAKE TIME!!! hell yeah I know working 12 hours is tough, and then stress over jr's grades adds to that but I'm really feeling sorry for you seeings as it was your choice to do this.
Mama also needs to step up and act like a parent. Crying about it, dumping it on you to handle is unacceptable as well. again, she chose to have this kid 11 years ago, time for her to take care of her responsibility.
So, forgive the bluntness of the post, but it's easy to have a kid, the tough part is raising the kid for the next ~18 years