Just to bump things up a little. #5 I have been unable to solve.
After some more searching I found a few apps that I like, which does most of the stuff symbian was doing.
Gemini Calendar seems very promising - has links to log and phone book, plus lots more features than the stock calendar.
Phone silencer also seems to give me basic timed silencing, which atm seems ok for me.
One or two things I am yet missing - anybody got any ideas for these:
1. Icons for phone type - mobile, work, home, etc.? Becomes easy to select which to dial depending on the time/situation.
2. Data / sms log - how do I know, especially with many of us outside the US on limited data / text plans, how much data has been used / sms been sent? There are a couple of apps, but in very preliminary stages. Any recommendations?