So here is what I did:
Facebook app -> update every 4 hours
Loacations -> disabled wireless network and GPS( can be turned on manually when needed)
Brightness -> very low but still brigh
Screen time out -> 30s
Advanced task killer -> I kill every app that I dont need on
Battery widget and htc clock widget- > Ditched it
stock gmail and handcent for sms installed
ditched youmail and locale, after checking spare parts( was keeping phone awake 100%)
I went from 6 hours of use to 18 hours without charge. I actually feel that the phone is sort of cold now when I hold it comparaded to before.