My LG Is Poop: I'm not sure what 's going on with your phone. I think you're on Kraven's CM7 so you might want to ask over on that forum. It sounds like the Xonia recovery got corrupted or renamed or something. I'm on Reborn ROM. I don't have a "bootloader" option. And I'm always able to get to the Xonia recovery. Did you try pulling the battery, pushing the power button, and then reinstalling the battery?
I guess in the worst case you could do a Titanium backup (just in case) and try to reinstall Xonia with optiauto-sfx.exe. Not sure if that would work.