One word to match all your needs and then some: Cerberus
Be wary of applications that turn-off data services (Juice Defender etc.) as you need to be able to contact your device from any web browser as needed to take pictures, video, display messages, etc.. But even if data is turned off, you can remote-control the phone via SM text messages.
You can track your phone and notify police of its whereabouts, look at SMS messages that have been sent/received, view the phone log, "wipe" the device, etc. Removing it from the app drawer (via the web page) and manually deleting the icon from the desktop, while maintaining the app even after the wipe, ...
Well, that was more than one word and I haven't even begun to describe the security capabilities of the app.