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Originally Posted by unnamedny
its simple apply situation 1 to your dad and situation 2 to your mom, problem solved. But on a serious note...
1. I have not seen too many people getting kicked out for no reason, there has to be more to the stpry. Does she gets home late? smokes? drinks? what about her grades? is she in college? does she work? going out with too many guys?
And of ofcause, its not really your problem, sorry if its going to sound rude, but stick your nose to your oen business and let herself deal with it.
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Honestly, it's because her stepdad is crazy. He has a long, long history of unstable behavior. He was in and out of jail/rehab for years and finally seemed to have his crap together. He was a fine upstanding citizen for a couple of years and then got married to this girl's mom. He was fine for a few years after that. Then one day he just started spiralling downhill again. No idea why. She's not in school any more since she graduated, but she does work. She has a boyfriend who's also a good guy who works harder than I do TBH. Her stepdad is just a bit wacky.
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2. So what was the reason for not letting anyone know? Not a smart move, and again its not on your shoulders in anyway.
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We don't know since she's not talking to anyone. I presume she thinks none of us would approve of the guy which is probably true. But I'm just making a blind guess since none of us have any idea who the guy even is.
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3. Do you work? I mean, even if you are in high school, you can manage to help your parents with at least $1k a month. If your father can not be a responsible head of the family, take his place. Read on how you can save bunch of money on bills online, fatwallet.com forum would be a good place to start. Look for coupons when buy things. I'm pretty sure there are many things could be done in your situation.
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Yeah. I work. I make a very good living actually. I don't want to disclose the exact number here, but I make more than the national average for a household and I do that on my own. I could easily give my parents $1k a month. Problem is that if I do that I feel like I'm just enabling my dad. He's not going to stop his behavior if I keep funding it will he? It's a behavioral problem at the end of the day.
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Originally Posted by zuben el genub
If the parent financial situation is possibly medically caused - like the onset of dementia - your mother might have some legal recourse.
You do care about your friends. The first could have been the start of an abusive situation, and the girl wouldn't go along. It's happened.
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It's not medically caused. It's caused by stubbornness. Don't want to get into the gory details, but he started down a financial path that's the wrong path. He knows it's the wrong path but won't admit it. Instead he is going to continue to go down this path so he can prove that he's right even though he knows that he is wrong. I don't know if that makes any sense at all. My mom has talked to him. She and my dad sat down with their pastor and talked to him. He won't listen. He's convinced he's right even though he knows he's wrong. Again, I don't even know if that makes any sense.