I've noticed that if I use my $6 clearance ear buds that are simple stereo ones, it has this problem. However, if I use the Samsung ones that come with the phone or my new Skull Candy ones with a microphone built in, it doesn't have any issues.
I think the problem may be the headphone end on whatever I plug in to my phone. The end has 2 little insulators between the metal piece on a simple stereo headphones end. If what I plug in has other things built in like the ear buds I mentioned earlier, there are 3 insulators on the end to separate the plug. I think the phone isn't meant for plain stereo headphones.
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