Anyone Get Into it With their Spouse over the X??

[thecrock0984]

So I wanted the X. My fiancee and I live together, might as well be married, with a 7month old baby. To say the least when she found out Id be spending money on an X. She wasnt happy. Thats why I hadnt told her. But hey, its the X, so just gonna have to learn to live with it! Anyone else get a hard time over the X??

 

[BLOWNCO]

ha i feel ya bro i get a ton of grief over phones always gotta have the latest and greatest lol atleast now my wife is used to it and it only last like a day or so now hahaha

 

[Gareee]

Nope. We bought one for me, and one for her.

 

[Martimus]

I bought my better half a Droid earlier in the year. She got her's so I figured it's time that I got mine! LOL

 

[Theibault]

LOL, open communication is key to a happy relationship!

 

[jbhumph]

My girl got a Droid a few weeks ago when her Blackberry 1 screen cracked internally. She didn't have a choice but to get a new phone. She made was dying for me to switch to Verizon so we could combine accounts and save money.

I decided I was going to get the X when it launched and at first she didn't pay any attention....but as I did more and more research, she began looking over my shoulder and then commenting on how amazing the phone looked. On launch day, she returned her Droid (was within 30 days) and we both got the Droid X. She is just as obsessed with it as I am mine lol

On a serious note to the OP though...

I would never hide anything from my gf. We are very seriously committed to one another and are talking of moving in soon and an engagement shortly after. We have been together for one year. I would never lie to her or hide anything from her at all, especially if we were already living together and had a child together. That is wrong, sorry

 

[Steven58]

There are a lot of issues here. Right off the bat, I'm going to recommend marital/relational counseling. Seriously. You made a passive/aggressive move. You planned to purchase a phone without telling her because you KNEW she would not approve. Instead of talking it out, which would risk your ability to control the outcome, you chose to try to take matters into your own hands.

To some people, the 200 needed to purchase the phone means nothing, as they have plenty of money to handle it. To others, it is a big deal. To your GF, it's a big deal and you should have honored that and you didn't. To her, the question is: how and why should I trust him going forward? He's secretive.

I don't give this relationship much hope if it isn't built on trust as relationships that ARE built on trust have plenty of troubles to start with. I've been married 31 years. I know the end of this behavior. The problem isn't with the X it's with the relationship.

Therefore, since this post has nothing to do with the X, imo, I am moving it to a more appropriate place. The Lounge.

Again, please consider counseling, if you care about continuing to live with your GF and your baby.

Rev. Steven58 (ordained minister)

 

[LiquidHonesty]

No argument here...probably because the wife got one too

 

[matty032]

Work bought mine, so no money argument. However, she is jealous as h$ll over it. Says its my real wife. Lol.

 

[SFWB]

I've only had company phones for the last five years or so. They were always cheap no frills phones. Meanwhile my wife had a phone that I paid for along with phones for the kids and her parents. She got a new every two upgrade each time etc. Well my work is letting me use a personal phone now and they will pay me $80 towards the bill each month, so here I am. She is behaving like a spoiled child. I told her she can have one when she has a job that will pay for it every month.

 

[ashykat]

There are a lot of issues here. Right off the bat, I'm going to recommend marital/relational counseling. Seriously. You made a passive/aggressive move. You planned to purchase a phone without telling her because you KNEW she would not approve. Instead of talking it out, which would risk your ability to control the outcome, you chose to try to take matters into your own hands.

To some people, the 200 needed to purchase the phone means nothing, as they have plenty of money to handle it. To others, it is a big deal. To your GF, it's a big deal and you should have honored that and you didn't. To her, the question is: how and why should I trust him going forward? He's secretive.

I don't give this relationship much hope if it isn't built on trust as relationships that ARE built on trust have plenty of troubles to start with. I've been married 31 years. I know the end of this behavior. The problem isn't with the X it's with the relationship.

Therefore, since this post has nothing to do with the X, imo, I am moving it to a more appropriate place. The Lounge.

Again, please consider counseling, if you care about continuing to live with your GF and your baby.

Rev. Steven58 (ordained minister)

+1

Win

 

[kibble]

You should never bring up your X in conversation or spend money on your X, it's bound to cause problems! (puns intended)

My fiancee ended up getting an X but she also bought me my DInc as a favor, so no complaints anywhere here!

I agree with Steven though, OPEN communication (just like open source) is the key to happiness!

 

[chrlswltrs]

I got a little grief over it, but with a little convincing we came to an agreement for me to get mine. I had her so convinced how great this phone was that I preordered 2 and we both got one on release day!! Haven't convinced her to let me root hers yet though

 

[HTCIncredible]

She probably sees the phone as a "want" not a need and thinks money can be better spent else where. Which is a true. But to each his/her own I say lol..my husband is a IT Guy...sooo

 

[chrlswltrs]

She probably sees the phone as a "want" not a need and thinks money can be better spent else where. Which is a true. But to each his/her own I say lol..my husband is a IT Guy...sooo

I saw my X as a need, I mean seriously I still had my Moto Droid I bought in November.

 

[andreezy]

If she's anything like the typical american wife/gf all know how much she spends on non essentials like new curtains, hair, nails, shoes, clothes, etc. Crap she don't need, but has to have. And you know she didn't ask you if the "family" needed those items.

My wife (of 18 years) $50's us to death about every other day. I $2,000 it about yearly meaning we're pretty much even.

That being said... No matter the freakin grief she'd end up giving me, i'd still tell her.