Does my life suck?

[iwillneverbebored]

I'm 16 years old and am currently enrolled in summer school. This year I got 6 F's second semester and 2 F's first semester. Last year, I got a 4.2 GPA and was enrolled in honors English and an Advanced math class. People used to refer to me as the smart quiet kid. Okay. It all started late last year. The summer of 2009 was awful. I found out through text messages, emails, and pictures (eww) that my 59 year old dad was cheating on my mom with a 29 year old girl in college. I told my mom and she was really upset. She confronted my dad and he denied it but then admitted to it and just always changed the subject when it was brought up. My mom can't leave him because she would be helpless in the real world and doesn't have a job. Then, later that summer, my dad was caught tax evading (giving his assistant false W-2 forms for 10 years) and I found out we were poor. The IRS seized our house and we almost had to move but the owner let us rent from him. The whole summer I hadn't done anything because I couldn't drive yet and I had no friends to do anything with. At the end of that summer, I tried to forget everything and just try to do my best in school. I decided to take 3 honors/AP classes considering I had gotten straight A's in all of my classes the year before and had received academic excellence awards in three of my classes (one of which was AP). I was in the top 5% of my class. The school year started out great and I was breezing through classes. Then, it got a bit harder and I had to do a lot of work at home. I would often end up going to sleep at 2 am after doing homework. Then one day, I caught the flu and was out an entire week. I missed so much and when I got back, I was too afraid to ask my teachers for makeup work because I was so shy. I immediately fell behind after being sick and began to get B's and C's on test. I overreacted and began to lose motivation and didn't work as hard. I started to do horribly on tests and I felt miserable. I'm also very shy and had no friends to comfort me. I also got extremely nervous when around other kids. One day, I had this huge test and I barely studied for it. I panicked and I left school at breaktime. I walked home and just hid outside until school was over. I began panicking regularly and also skipping school regularly. My parents soon found out and I had to see the school psychiatrist and my counselor. This just made me feel worse and even more embarrassed. Soon, I ended up refusing to even attend school. The school end up hiring a private tutor for me to make up my work at my house. I had avoided social contact for so long that I refused to see the tutor. The school reacted and recommended that I should go to a health clinic place and get psychological treatment if I kept refusing to see the tutor. I felt alone and depressed. I finally began seeing the tutor out of fear of going to the Health clinic crazy house place. The school gave me a deadline to finish my work but I ended up missing it and therefore receiving incomplete/failures in many of my classes. My dad started getting mad at me because I was refusing to go to social events and family friends' parties. One time, he got so mad at me that he threw me against the stairs and hit me in the face. It hurt me more emotionally and psychologically than physically. The school year is over now and I've been taking these summer school classes to makeup my work. My GPA is ruined now and my chances of getting into the college I was aiming for (Stanford) have been lost. I've started to go out more and talk to people but I still don't have any real friends. My only friend is my sister but she is going to college in a month. I've started to play basketball because I want to get a basketball scholarship (I'm 16 and 6"4 and am pretty good but really skinny)since there is no way now that I can get into a decent school with my GPA. This academic year, I'll try not to overwhelm myself and focus more on learning the material rather than grades. I've also started to watch some pretty inspiring movies: Into the Wild, Up in the Air, Lost in Translation, An Education, A Serious Man, Milk, Invictus, The Cove... I've also started to study business books and have even been buying and selling fake stocks through this virtual real world program. I started with $10,000 to spend on stocks and have already turned that into $30,000 worth of fake stock shares. I didn't have any nice things until I saved up to get an Evo (loving it). However, my sister is leaving in a month and I'll be stuck with my parents. My dad is still cheating on my mom (now with multiple women) and my mom still acts like a 5 year old but I still love her (my dad on the other hand is an asshole). I'll probably end up going to a community college which I've learned to accept. Community college is a lot cheaper anyways and I probably wouldn't have been able to afford a university anyway. I might even be able to transfer to a university if I do well in community college. I'll have to get student loans though. Sorry I wrote so much. If you managed to get to this point, answer me this: Were your teen years ever this bad?

 

[bullonie]

Not to sound like a douche, but this is your fault you're doing poorly in school. How shy are you that you can't ask your teachers for missed work? How is that, in any way, embarrassing? Talk to them at the end of class. It's not like they're going to say "No. Now go away." They are there to help you and appreciate it when you actually care about grades.

 

[Intervenient]

Whoo, bro, calm down. Breathe. Ok? Good

First things first, your life does not suck. You're 16, your life hasn't even STARTED yet. So you made a few bad grades in college, no biggie. You still got another year left. Not only that, but as you mentioned community college is AMAZING. It's your chance to completely start over in the academic world. I know several people who got lazy during high school, got their act together during CC, and went on to go to very prestigious public schools. That's the route I would have taken, had my whole college not been paid for, and had I not been accepted into UCSB solely by mercy. You still have time, make the best of it. You can still succeed this way.

As for your family, I know it must be tough, but you gotta stick it through. You can not let their problems get in the way of your success, although that's not saying turning a blind eye to them. Put your priorities first, but them in a fairly close second.

I know a thing or two about being shy. I got a D last semester because I didn't want my Plant Science teacher to get mad at me. I never told him about the misconceptions he had in his grade book, but chickened out and told my principal instead (I was his aid, and on relatively good terms with). I've been trying to break out of my little box, and it's hard, but it can be done.


I wish you the best.

 

[momoceio]

Everyone's life sucks...that's life.

 

[IOWA]

Well, I didn't read this thread, but if you have to ask on an internet forum, I suggest you seek some professional council instead. Or talk to your parents.

 

[Member138406]

I am sure things will get better for you, but if you put things in perspective, your life is not very bad at all.. Shit happens, but a lot of people are far far far worst off. As far as friends, you will always have us!!!!

P.S. "Into The Wild" is an incredible movie.

 

[smacky]

I was in the same boat as you a few years ago. Slightly different, but academically, spot on. They always say the higher you are, the harder your fall. Being an honors kid, slipping up a few times and finding yourself with the "regular" kids. Been there, done that.

Your family issues...you don't need anyone to tell you that it's rough. I can't relate to something that drastic. But everyone has something the family deals with internally, whether it be financially, emotionally, or just about everything you could imagine.

I had high hopes in high school too. I came in taking honors and APs and by my junior year I had lost all motivation and hope, I was back in the regular kids classes. Forget the insult to "normal" kids on here, it was a bigger slap in the face when my teachers recommended me for APs that year but the counselor shot me down. I'm glad he did. It knocked some sense back into me. Some. I crawled out of that hole by my senior year but it still "scarred" me and my morale. It still continues in college today.

My best advice to you would be to do what's best. Sounds cliche, right? If you have the money...or your parents are willing to give it to you, get out the house. Go where you can get away from it and finally start meeting people. If you have to go to community college, **** it, do that. They should be easy As for you. I usually take community college courses for my gen eds over the summers and as a Junior doing it three summers now with no gap in between, they are a **** ton easier. Spend two years there and see what happens.

High school's a joke. It's not supposed to be like it was in Dazed and Confused. And everyone goes through it. I could pour my heart out on here but it's a phone forum. But everyone on here has gone through their fair of shit.

Pain is relative. Someone on here may have grown up with money. They may not know the meaning of pain. Or what it takes for some to earn a dollar. That was actually me in my later years (through my parents of course, but same thing). I had the best of both worlds. Still can't say I learned a damn thing. But everyone's experience varies, it's apples to oranges.

I feel tacky posting this too but I heard this song my eighth grade year and ever since then the song has meant different things to me. He's made some lame shit more recently, but during his glory years, Eminem: YouTube - Till I Collapse - Eminem

 

[J03]

So you create the screen name "iwillneverbebored" so you could come on a web forum and ask if your life sucks? An odd choice don't ya think?

 

[smacky]

So you create the screen name "iwillneverbebored" so you could come on a web forum and ask if your life sucks? An odd choice don't ya think?

Eh, just give him the benefit of the doubt like I did. You never know, he was planning on offing himself and we saved him. Maybe.

Or he's an existing member trying to stay anonymous. If something happened tomorrow, you wouldn't feel a tad guilty you doubted him?

I cry when my Lemmings fall off the cliff like bastards because a few got ahead of the guy I set there to block their way. I'm such a Romantic.

 

[Pryomancer]

YouTube - Tim Minchin - Some people have it worse than I

 

[Roxors]

GO talk to someone instead of isolating yourself at a computer/ on your phone.

 

[Frisco]

It is amazing that you are so expressive about the details in your life, iwillneverbebored; you are a very aware person, and it appears that you are also a very self aware person.

That can go a long way in beginning the process of healing, but you will likely need an impartial but trusted person to talk to about all of those things.

Please start with a school councilor perhaps.

For a person your age to come across so positive, so open and intelligent in a posting on a forum such as this is a very good thing to see; please hold your head up high and your life will all fall into place nicely and as you hope it will, I'm sure.

 

[sontaikle]

You CAN turn your life around. You might feel like you're stuck in a hole, but you're not. You can get out of it. SEEK HELP. This is what the counselors at your school are for and they will help you get back on your feet. There are many people in your school who are willing to help, but they can't help you unless you ask for it.

If your GPA is too low to get a decent scholarship, go to a community college and then transfer to a four year university when you're done. If you had over a 4.0 GPA in high school then chances are you'll be able to achieve that in college and then transfer to a 4 year university with a decent scholarship.

 

[EmoTonyB]

:: opens a box of tissues and hands them around ::

 

[Mars Mullo]

You're 16 mate, you've got your whole life ahead of you. The only advice I can give is work your arse off for the next 6 years and the rest of your life will be a lot easier, happier and rewarding than it will be if you don't.

 

[shawn1224]

Your life has barely begun. Wait till you have to start paying bills, maintaining a household and supporting a family. Then you'll know how good you have it now.

 

[Tangent]

...First things first, your life does not suck. You're 16, your life hasn't even STARTED yet. ...

This is by far the most important thing to keep in mind.

As for the shyness, I can relate. What permanently cured me of my shyness was joining the military. Once you make it through boot camp, talking to strangers is nothing. Of course if you don't want to do something quite so drastic, find a nearby Toastmasters or similar organization. Once you master speaking in front of people, one-on-one will be a piece of cake, not to mention the experience will be hugely valuable once you enter the workplace.

 

[Vihzel]

I wonder if this is a troll post. I find it a little odd that he only has one post and this is the first one that he decides to do on Android Forums.

 

[Roxors]

I wonder if this is a troll post. I find it a little odd that he only has one post and this is the first one that he decides to do on Android Forums.

Maybe... maybe not. he did thank a few people, and just may not have a computer at home or something like that?

either way it got people talking and trying to help which is better that people just saying F off. so there is still positive that came from this

 

[twospirits]

People, if you have nothing good to say or positive then then post. If the OP is in deed sincere, and has decided to use the forum for insight or help, then give it, but don't start posting ridiculous, inconsiderate, insensitive posts or I will have to step in and issue infractions. I already had to remove 6 posts. Don't make me come back here. If its found that the OP is trolling then he will be dealt with, but don't make matters worse.

Carry on.

TS out

 

[rcrott1]

Well, I didn't read this thread, but if you have to ask on an internet forum, I suggest you seek some professional council instead. Or talk to your parents.

modern times, kids arent going to talk to their parents and are more apt to ask strangers on a forum than they are the people in their own home.


in regards to the OP... we all experience different hardships in life, when they come will vary from person to person.


but Iowa does have a point. You need to reach out to your family and a professional. Talk to your teachers. They really are understanding, I married one, i hear about it all the time. the teachers nowadays get so much more involved with the kids' personal lives than they did in our days....

regardless, we are here if you need help.

 

[powerkiter]

How can he talk to his parents about some of his issues if in a way they caused the problems.

Life is just crap and it's only little glimmers that keep most folk going, there is gold to be found in every pile of crap but most times it turns out to be the foil of a sweet wrapper.

From what you have wrote I know people who have had a nicer life than you and I know people who have a life 100% worse than yours, heck I had an ex who was raped by her step dad and even 3 years after would sit in a bath and scrub herself raw with bleach as she felt "dirty"!

Going by your post though you seem like you have seen the light at the end of the tunnel and your post even reads in a positive way towards the end and it sounds like you turning your life around by making yourself enter situations where you have to interact with the public.

Get some social hobbies that means you have to interact with folk, make a plan that in 5 years time you can get your own place and move out and also it reads that your mum suffers from a similar problem to you so try and help her into finding a job and her own feet as this will give you something to focus on.

Another ex I had her father was a violent alcoholic and serial cheater that would beat his whole family when he got back from the pub, within 2 weeks of meeting her I moved her out of her parents house. After a few years of us living together and getting to know her mum who had been beaten and abused so much over 20 years she had NO self respect no self-esteem and no confidence in herself! She felt like no one would ever give her a job as she had been a house wife for over 20 years with no work experience.

So one day we rented a bigger house, rented a big van and when we knew the dad was at the pub we just steamed into the house packed all her stuff and the ex's younger sisters stuff and moved them in with us. After around a year of subtle reabilitation from us as a kind unit she got a job, her own place and now earns enough to rent a house, support herself and the youngest sister and has a whole new life to live for herself.

Try to help your mum as much as yourself and both of you could come out the end with new lives, new jobs and new friends and new loving relationships.

 

[iwillneverbebored]

I am NOT a troll. I just wanted to stay anonymous so I created a separate account. Sorry if I confused anyone. But please do not start making rude accusations when you have no facts to support your claims. I am looking for honest sincere answers which I got from SOME of you. It's not always easy to communicate with my parents and I want to get other peoples' perspectives. Thanks to all of you who have given me helpful answers so far. I appreciate it.

 

[Frisco]

The hope is that you will not be put off by the negativities expressed by some; just ignore it if you can, and as you can see, the moderators are helping with that; that's one of the things that should help you know that you've come to the right place with your feelings, issues and hopes.

 

[powerkiter]

IWNBB (I aint typing your full name... But with shortening it and writing my explination I might as well have just typed it out twice) Im glad you have come back on and explained yourself to the doubters.

There was no need to thank me for my post, something like 90% of people suffer depression and I have been there.

I never took to schooling and I when I was at school I was around ten years out from when kids in the uk could leave school at 12 and start work, all my school reports said that I should have been born 15 years earlier.

I left school with no qualification as I realised I could bunk off and go round washing cars and earn