life's tough.... if college were easy, everyone would have a degree. college weeds out the have's from the have not's. So, you can either blame parents not hugging you enough as a child, or pull up you bootstraps and get it done. I struggled in math too. I had to take one course 3 times, another one twice. Math sucks, but I didn't give up on it because of some imaginary disease
I am convinced though, that when scientists find the mythological ADHD gene, it will be right beside the mythological gay gene too. lolol
I failed algebra 2 in my junior year of high school.
I retook it my senior year. Failed it again.
had to take 8 courses my last semester as a senior in high school to graduate.
I took math 155 at my college. FYI that is the same material covered in algebra 2 in high school.
Failed it again.
Took it once more. 4th time I passed it. I spent more time studying than I can even remember.
Took math 165 which is trigonometry next semester.
Failed it.
Took it again.
Failed it.
Took it again.
Passed.
took math 200 calc
Talking to my advisor not even a week ago he said and I quote, "I advice you to change concentrations with in your major, same courses less math".
You know what disgust me the most? You sound just like my parents.
"oh don't blame dyslexia and A.D.D. on your problems!"
You people make it sound like I ****en wanted to fail.
I'm not giving up on it because of some "imaginary disease" as you so quaintly phrased it.
I am giving up on it because, a guy with a P.H.D. said "hey buddy.. look man.. you gotta graduate sometime".
Never in my life did I A. Know I had A.D.D. and B. Know I had dyslexia.
My parents knew never told me and never let me use it as a cruch.
Which is fine if your actually going to
DO something about it.
No they just sat back watched me fail and told me I'm worthless.
They are just as much at fault for me.
And please, I refuse to believe you went to college. If you went to college you sure as hell missed the point of going. That being to become a better person capable of reasoning on a higher level :/
See I can imagine you saying the same thing as my parents "its not our fault you aren't going into calculus". And that is true to an extent.. they aren't forcing me to change concentrations or not go into it.
However, if your a parent, it is your job to do more than discipline your children, if they have a problem, you need to make sure it is taken care of.
Well now I'm an adult.. my problems aren't theirs anymore.. but, that doesn't mean they aren't responsible for them.
"Well he doesn't write a 9 instead of a P anymore.. he is cured!" doesn't quite cut it.
They did
nothing to help me in school. And from the looks of it, it seems like your the kind of person who believes as long as someone elses kid doesn't bug you, they must have automatically done a great job parenting.
I
STILL hold myself responsible for my grades.. I have
NEVER used it as a crutch or an excuse to not do well.
I have
ALWAYS held my self accountable and do so even now.
This isn't some magical label that makes me hate myself any less, this isn't some god send that cures me of my responsibility.
I still feel like the worlds biggest **** up.
And that is what bugs me the absolute most about this whole ordeal.
I screwed up I admit it. However, my parents have never once felt like they did anything wrong.
Even now I don't say "well, I am not turning it in because, I am A.D.D." or " I didn't do that because, I am A.D.D."
I just stay quiet and hate myself for sitting down and not being unable to push myself to do something. Or to sit down and try to do it and then just completely lose my train of thought. not once, not twice, but for HOURS at a time.
I
still don't blame the A.D.D.
however, I will be the first to say that, had my parents paid attention growing up and had these issues been addressed at a younger age, my life would be completely different.
Now, I can't say its their problem because, I am an adult..
However, I hate that the world gives THEM total release from guilt, why?
Because, in life parents
always get sympathy over the child.
*edit*
and I never implied college is suppose to be easy.. however, you missed the point about me having horrific grades since kindegarden and that being completely unaddressed.