Not trying to gang up on you redplate, but there is a ton of information on this forum. Yes, there are thousands of posts about 2.1 and the information can be a little difficult to sift through. However, there are still multiple ways to gain the information if you want it bad enough. People start new threads on the subject all the time. People have also gone into the 2.1 threads and started asking questions as well. I have had a ton of people PM me (not an invite, I get enough already) about 2.1 and asked for my opinion. I am sure other members would have provided theirs as well. Also, there are many people that love how well 2.1 works on their phone. Almost everyone has at least one minor problem with it, but the majority of us are happy and think the phone works well. Those with more serious problems are VERY "vocal" about those problems too.
As far as your problems with the phone go, the only thing I can recommend is to read the everything you need to know sticky that Caddyman made. There are links in there to some great information. Try some of the tips and see if they help. You can also take a look at your apps and see if something is causing a conflict. Hope it gets better.