Does anyone know of a way t o get 3.0 on the mesmerize
No. Honeycomb is ONLY for tablets. It is specifically designed for large, high-res screens, and it doesn't have most of the functionality that you need for phones (i.e. texting, phone, etc.). This is why Google won't release the source code for HC; so people don't try to load it on their phones and them complain that they don't work.
What about any newer os that we can put on our phones
So far there is no "newer" OS for phones than Gingerbread (2.3), which is available via XDA forums.
I think that the next update after 2.3 will be 4.0 (Ice Cream Sandwich) but I don't see that being available for quite a while.
This didn't occur to me earlier, but I think it is significant... You don't want HC functionality on a phone. Really, you don't. I've used FroYo on my Mez and both FroYo and Honeycomb on my G-Tablet, so I have a fair bit of experience with both.
Since it is designed for 10" screens, not 4" screens, most of the details are going to be too small to see. The standard FroYo Gmail and Callendar apps work well on a small screen, but if you tried to shrink the HC versions down to fit on a phone, they would be totally useless. Too much of their functionality is dependant on a large screen. The ONLY useful aspect of HC that would carry over to a phone would be the multi-tasking abilities, but even on FroYo, it's not bad.
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