Last Updated: Sep 21,2010
And can I turn it off?
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It can be turned off by simply not configuring an account for it.
The problem is that I never did set up an account (or at least I don't think I did), but I keep getting the message 'Unable to sync with the server.'
So, if you go into Settings, Accounts & sync can you confirm that the Backup Assistant option has a grey sync icon?
No, it doesn't. It is in color.
In that case, there's your answer - at some point in time it must have been configured (albeit incomplete). Disable the account and you should be good to go (I've not got my phone anywhere near me so I can't remember the exact steps to do so).
Here's a rather complete post on Disabling Backup Assistant. Although the poster states "Droid Incredible" I'd think it would apply to any VZW Android based phone (though I may be wrong on that!)
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