Wow, I had no idea you thought that about guys, OTD. I've been lucky. Everyone that I've seriously dated has been exceptional (not perfect but really great.) The problem is that until about 10 years ago, I was one of those crazy ex-girlfriends most guys have (not the stalking kind, just the pain in the ass kind.)
I was selfish, passive aggressive and an all around pain in the ass. I'm still that way, but at least I am old and tired now so not as many people have to deal with it. When my last boyfriend and I broke up, I decided to stop dating seriously and just have fun because I thought the same thing that you did.
18 months later, I met my husband (so much for revelling in what little youth I had left to misspend) and I wouldn't trade him for anything except maybe Bill Gates. In that case, my husband could be the pool boy.
Everyone that I've stayed with has been attentive and a great partner in my life while not being the sort of emo crybaby that people accuse men who treat women well of being. Taking your relationship seriously and respecting what made you want to stay with the person as long as you did doesn't make you emo and being on a first name basis with all of the ladies at the strip clubs when it goes south doesn't make you a man either.
There are just as many lying, cheating, philanderin' women out there, too. It's hard to be a good person (well for me it is) but sometimes you meet someone that you feel should have a good person looking out for them. That's a good place to be, I think. Good luck, Snow_Fox. Congrats, Steven58. It is hard to live with
anyone for 31 years (no matter how much you love them.) I haven't lived with anyone for more than 18 and only 10 years for someone who isn't a blood relative, so I really salute what you've got going.