Are you telling me you can't load or get into either recovery no matter what you try? If so then you are the first person I have ever heard of that couldn't but I guess it is possible.
So lets recap.......
1. you can flash clockwork and sprecovery via rom manager but can't access them via rom manager or holding the X button on boot up
2. you have put sprecovery zip on your sd card via the computer but stil can't get into recovery to flash it
3. you are unwilling to flash back to stock and reroot because of fear
Is that about right?
You know there is this one click root solution............
http://androidforums.com/droid-all-...olution-droid-thread-d-d-latest-v2-0-4-a.html
edit: if you want I will be happy to hold your hand while you reroot via rsd lite or get on a video chat to see if we can solve this. I am not the most skilled here at these forums but I haven't bricked a phone yet.lol