ok i'll help with that..
Liberty is the most popular rom nowadays. It's very newbie friendly and highly configurable. I'm on it. It has no blur. (I like some blur. It has the option to add some small blur elements back, like the alarm clock, etc.) Has a rom manager available on the market. Lots of themes are in the rom manager and out of it. You can tweak the guts of the rom in the manager. Fun.
ApeX- was the #1 Rom, now it's #2 behind liberty. Has more blur. Easy to install. Very newby friendly. Lots of themes for this. Nexolution is my favorite theme.
You can't go wrong with either.
Fission- It also has it's own rom manager with lots of tweaks themes etc. Very sleek, very fast and very stable too. It's probably #2 with apex.
Simply Stunning X v1.1- nice, stable. but dated?
DarkSlide v4.2 blur and blurless options- Me likey a lot! Try this one if you wish.
GummyJAR v2.5 - don't bother.. predecessor to Liberty.
Fission- Lots of themes for it