but, will I be able to get to the emails on the web when I'm out and about? and i f I delete the email in the android (or the web if I see it theree)will It tdo the same in the outlook on my computer....does it synch like with mobileme. thank you again.
As I understand what you want to do, Sitlet and Razz are correct that you can't do this with an IMAP-based mail server.
You can, however, do it with POP3, but it isn't elegant.
With POP3, mail is deleted from a server when you fetch it AND instruct the server to delete it when you download it. With a mail program like Thunderbird on a PC, that's the standard setting. However, you can also set Thundebird to leave messages on the server until you delete them. Same for K-9 mail in Android.
So you check your mail on the PC and get messages, but you don't delete them from the server. When you check with K-9 (or stock mail or MailDroid, I'm guessing), you get the messages again. So you have any messages you want to save in both places.
Of course your POP3 mail server will impose a storage limit, so you'll have to delete messages there eventually.
Then you have to decide if you want to delete messages ONLY on your PC or ONLY on your phone. Of course if you know you don't want to save a message, you'll have to delete it both places to clear it from the mail program, although the first delete will clear it from the server.
If you're sure you'll know when a message has been downloaded by both mail programs, you can delete it on either. But how can you, really? However, if you're sure you don't want to save a message, you can delete it on either program, and it won't matter if the other program doesn't download it.
Now, saving mail you send both on a PC and a smartphone/tablet will require you to import and export files, so if having mail you send be identical on both devices, your life will get much more complicated.