Of all the forums I'm a member of I chose this one because...well I don't know why. Just seemed like a good place to ask!
To make the story as short as necessary, I have a sort of adopted/step daughter from a relationship 10 years ago. The mother died about 9 years ago and the daughter and I have remained close though she lives with her grandparents. The father is unknown though the mother did know the few possibilities that it could have been. The 3 were all middle-eastern descent and the mother white. Tests were never done and the info needed for answers died with the mother.
The daughter is 13 now and is slightly dark complected. She sort of looks to be mexican and she has decided that's what she is. She's big on the whole "brown pride" thing. She fits in and hangs around with all the other mexican kids at her school so no one can tell without knowing the past. I'm perfectly ok with all that I just wonder if I should let her go on thinking she's of mexican descent or tell her what little I know about her father and that there's no mexican in her?
I realize 13 is a hard age to take anything so I haven't said anything. Other parents have any thoughts? Or you as a person, would you want to know the truth about your ancestry even if it wasn't what you thought?
To make the story as short as necessary, I have a sort of adopted/step daughter from a relationship 10 years ago. The mother died about 9 years ago and the daughter and I have remained close though she lives with her grandparents. The father is unknown though the mother did know the few possibilities that it could have been. The 3 were all middle-eastern descent and the mother white. Tests were never done and the info needed for answers died with the mother.
The daughter is 13 now and is slightly dark complected. She sort of looks to be mexican and she has decided that's what she is. She's big on the whole "brown pride" thing. She fits in and hangs around with all the other mexican kids at her school so no one can tell without knowing the past. I'm perfectly ok with all that I just wonder if I should let her go on thinking she's of mexican descent or tell her what little I know about her father and that there's no mexican in her?
I realize 13 is a hard age to take anything so I haven't said anything. Other parents have any thoughts? Or you as a person, would you want to know the truth about your ancestry even if it wasn't what you thought?