First off I want to say sorry you are having a difficult time!
It is natural for a father to be concerned and healthy to a certain extent... however on the other side of the coin can be destructive if not kept under control...
Think about one of my own experiences with my own family and the dangers of extreme over the top protectiveness - I made this saying but it more than likely already exists in essence: "If birds became so paranoid and forced their offspring to never fly and keep them "safe" we may have never invented fight!"
In a way it might be dangerous to hold too tight a reign.... I know your feelings are aimed at being progressive and your intentions good but be careful of suffocation of flight and refusing one to have a strong imagination and experience life....
I have had such issues with my family - that I can't even begin to express my concern for all involved in yours as I have had so many issues with mine and this is why I want to try my best to help you out.
Your daughter may have a leg to stand upon... and on the other hand she may be totally and completely unreasonable...
Anyway - just trying to dig a bit deeper here... which can harbor it's own problems that were never even there to begin with and start "tilting with windmills"...
You being the father do you feel you are not respected? - Am I correct?
Why? If I may ask...
What does she do - or not do - that you would want her to do or be?
Please bare in mind she is in a hormonal shift in her current age and there is an
EXTREMELY high chance that she
really is she is going through a
VERY rough time as hormones start going wild approximately at her age.
Then your best bet is actually not to beharsh and just be as comforting as humanly possible during this challenging time.
Try to be as caring as possible - if bashing your head against a wall is giving you a splitting headache - try going with the flow!
Remember a simple smile and happy attitude can create an awesome atmosphere that you can all benefit from this modern stressful era.