Dear OP,
I really didn't want to reply to this; however, I am not sure you have read your own posts and did what your Droid X functions very well with: Google this stuff.
Let me google that for you .
I just would like you to know that I measure my X against my friends and co-workers all the time. I wouldn't trade my X for an Iphone 4 if you paid me and put it on Verizon.
Is Blur laggy? Yes. Is that Androids fault? No. Are you familiar with Linux? There are thousands of versions of Linux and some come with crapware. Welcome to customization. Also, I get e-mails from exchange servers and gmail fine. Do I have to wait on the push? Yes. You do with any phone my dear. Just adjust settings at the cost of battery to make it happen quicker!
Lets bring this away from the phone department and into a more familiar situation:
Cars. When you buy your car, do you decide on the way the dashboard is laid out or why it doesn't accelerate or brake as fast as your last one? Will you ever find one that feels the same? Looks the same? Uses gas the same? Seats the same? Breaks down the same? Not unless you buy the same. That means the same year, and probably one off of the same manufacturing line. No one is screaming at Toyota that their Tundra doesn't self charge like a Prius.
And to take this one step further, do people who drive a Prius cry that it isn't as appealing as a Camry? Doesn't feel as masculine as a Tundra? No. Why? They bought this car for it's advantages. It's advantages are better gas mileage, a few tech toys, and comfort. If you want to turn the ladies heads, buy a sports car. If you want to save money, buy a Prius. If you want to haul lumber, buy a truck. If you want to go off-road, shop accordingly.
My point is, you can't please everyone. There is going to be a you in every crowd. Iphone is successful because it works. You can't change how it works, you can't change how it looks, but it functions.
An Android phone is like buying a sports car you expect to modify and add some chrome too, or lower, or cut into a convertible at some point. It works out of the box. Does it work flawlessly? Depends on the brand and what you consider flawless; however, if you chop the top off, you can be cooler in certain weather and sparkle in all of the chrome you want. You can bring the experience you need for your device to you. Is it work? Yes. But the manufacturing market, unfortunately, isn't Burger King. You don't get it "Your way, right away". If you want it your way, you have to pull off your own tomatoes with Android, but it's possible. With the Iphone, it isn't, but it already works.
Does the Iphone that "works" work flawlessly? No. It is the Prius of smartphones. You can't customize it to make it look more appealing, you cant change the way it does much of anything, and you can't add a can of NOS and kick some random v-tech in to make it drag race. It simply gets the job done with a few nice included options, none you can change even by manufacturer request. It needs those regenerating brake pads to keep it working, so you won't stop on a dime. It needs all of those flashy electronics laid out exactly how they are, so you can monitor it for repair. The UI is set in stone. If you bought one of those, you accepted that you would never drag race or go to car shows. You accepted that you just want to go to work and drop the kids at school. Nothing is wrong with that, if that's what you want.
Personally, I wanted the sports car with all of the options and a can of paint to boot. I want to put spiffy decals on it, race it down the drag strip, look cooler in the summer time with my top down, and paint it some sparkling color with some rims on it. I will add apps, root to my hearts desire, and customize the UI until it feels just right when I plop down in that bucket seat to take my kids to school, buy groceries, or burn some chump at a red light.
Are there setbacks to owning a sports car? Yes, plenty. Sometimes it uses more gas, you tend to drive them harder so they may break down more, they require a bit of maintenance a grocery getter won't, and I had to pull my own tomatoes off to make it taste just right.
So, now that I am done with my horrific analogies; it is pretty simple here.
If you want your phone to do things it isn't designed to do on day one, like log into a proxy, find a fix for it. There
are fixes. Sure the iphone can do that out of the box, but the things it cant do, you are ultimately screwed in that department. The option
is there. Use it. Worst case, I have some networking knowledge. If you need to get into your network that bad, our phones do have MAC addresses, and network admins can allow them without proxy on most of today's equipment fairly easily. If you don't need it to do your job, then thank Android for you never getting caught using the stumble app to browse porn on the job. Don't keep complaining your phone can't do things that it clearly can. Fix your problem. It's that old saying we all hate "You can't have your cake and eat it too!", or in this case your Froyo. Your phone is capable of doing everything slated, just make it happen sweetheart.
As for lag, it may be very true that you have an app messing with you. This includes the lock screen. There are apps that make it worse. Such as the emergency dialer app that puts a widget on your lock screen, that thing and blur are nasty together. Blur sucks, but that's a different topic. It isn't meant for someone with specific needs, it's meant to be there to work. It does work. It just doesn't work how us nerds want it to. So we remove it or work around it.
Gaming? There are plenty of games. Are there cool games like those that Pop Cap or others provide for the iphone? Not yet! It will come around. Android has blown up in just under a year. It's just a baby boomer, and developers want to see that its worth the investment. Just like most companies used 56k until they knew deep down that broadband was worth the investment. There are good games on the market. Angry Birds certainly does not lag on my phone. It has once, but that could also be attributed to two things : It is an app in the beta stage and did not cost you one red cent; and you are running an unofficial OS that may have an issue beyond the developer's control that will be fixed in the final release. Only time will tell.
Then last but not least, the market. Does the market suck? It does, but not for the reasons you listed. It sucks more because of when I search for games, I see 1,000 apps of puzzles or jpeg slideshows of some random amateur porn star. That needs to be handled, but I have faith it will be in due time. As far as finding the right apps.....so what if there isn't a top 10 or something to throw them at you? Is that how you decide you want everything? Even buying things on the Playstation Network, in a software store for my pc, on Xbox Live, or any piece of technology; require a fraction of research. For instance you may need an app to let you edit a specific file type not available in the top downloaded app. Is that going to be on a banner advertising this in the app store? I can see it now; "Download Elite Doc Viewer 9.1.3c. This application is bad ass! It does everything you need it do. I must warn you though! It force closes when you sneeze and it doesn't really open document files in your native language. It has cool wallpaper and some neat looking buttons though." More people are ignorant than intelligent, and if you want something, you have a smart phone! Google it! Halo is a top game, I don't like Halo. Twilight was a top grossing film. Unfortunately, I am not a teenaged girl and I would not enjoy it.
It doesn't hurt me to browse the phandroid game reviews, or some other fan sites. It gives me something to read about. The videos give me some insurance that I might actually enjoy a game. If I don't enjoy it, I have 24 hours to tell them by uninstalling it. I believe that is an excellent start to a GREAT market. There are some free games and apps that have served me greatly with minor flaws. The android community is EXCELLENT. We help each other out and get things done. The kinks take time to work out. You said you are tired of hearing that? How long did you use an Iphone? The apple market was horrid at one point. It has now, had time to grow. At it's one year point, it was not showered with apps, and never was showered with all of the customizations available to our Android devices. Let's measure those e-peens a bit later. Say, at least version 3.0? I mean, that's when the Iphone era truly blossomed, after all.
Personally, I chose Android because I can customize it and it has the ability to do everything any other smartphone on the market can do with the occasional twist. I didn't want a device that the manufacturer dictated how I must use it. That is not how I want to spend my money.
The questions you need to ask yourself are, do you want an item you can make work how you want it to work? Or one that works for now for what you do, but next month that feature is removed because it allowed someone to have fun or use it the way they wanted?
For those that deemed this "TLDR" it's simply summarized as:
With an android device as amazing as the X, there is more than one way to skin a cat! With those other products, your cat comes already skinned, we just hope you like it.
Signed,
A Nerd that needs sleep.
PS.
We didn't even discuss carrier commitments vs service! But, for the future, I wish you luck in choosing the proper device to suit your needs. None of us will judge you if you decide something besides what we like, promise. Just please, don't complain so much! Ask for help, and accept it. There are guys on this forum that can make your phone undress your lover for you. (I think..)