Hi
@laura224, welcome to Android Forums
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I feel for you, yes I've been there, done it and got the tea-shirt. My first marriage was a disaster. It lasted 10 years but from year 4 on just got worse and worse. I knew deep down it was serious but couldn't bring myself to confront her. However in year 10, I started a relationship with a work colleague and decided that I then had to confront her rather than be a cheat myself. She immediately confessed to having had an affair with her best friend's husband and more or less pleaded with me that we should forgive each other and start afresh.
I refused, saying I could never trust her again and proceeded to take divorce action. It was messy, by now there two children involved, but I saw it through.
Some years later it came to light that her affair had in fact begun in year 4 when our son was 4 and our daughter had just arrived.
So I felt completely justified in my actions and have since spent over 40 happy years with my second wife. My first wife on the other hand has had three marriages and a number of affairs.
I'm estranged from my son and daughter now and the only good thing that came from the first marriage are our two grandsons who love both me and my second wife whom they treat as their true grandma.
All of that said, the only advice I can give is based on my experience and that is to bite the bullet and confront him. Get it out in the open and deal with it, excruciatingly hard though that will be.
I wish you good luck, and a happy future, take care
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