Adobe Flash 10.3 prompt in browser?

Greetings fellow droid owners. I've searched all over the internet and can't seem to find any discussion on something about Adobe flash on Android.

I have a Telus Motorola Milestone runnind FroYo 2.2.1 I've installed Adobe Flash 10.3 and it works great except I find on websites which are flash heavy i.e. they have a **** ton of adds all around the video I want to see, such as gametrailers, my browser will crash when trying to load the video, but on simpler sites such as homestarrunner there is no problem. So what I'm looking to find out is if there is a way to make flash items on web pages ask for a prompt to open with a simple "do you want to load this flash item yes/no", that way I could ideally click yes on the video and no on the adds which are lagging me.

On a side note I was running with flash 10.1 for about 2 months with all the same issues, I was hoping that 10.3 might be better but its basically the same.

Again I'm sorry if this has been asked before but as I said I have researched around and when I type in Android and Flash all I get are topics about rooting or updating a phone.