"I also find just the little things really inconvenient, like double tap to zoom and then having to move the screen around to find the text; iphone automatically does that"
edit: skyfire browser. download it, then setup the options. autozoom level is in there.
"Small things like the Calendar blows on android, who ever thought that a rectangular long boxes would look nice?"
there are many calendar apps you can try, some have alot of options and skins.
"Syncing music and videos are okay with doubletwist, but then again, it's just another set of programs i need to use."
you can try vcast media manager its free. i personally drag and drop files onto my device and launch them through the gallery. Once you set all your defaults, the experience is seamless.
"Apps are not as colorful or polished than the iPhone."
Try beautiful widgets in combination with adw launcher, and launcher pro, and pure messenger and calendar. those core apps are highly customizable and have free skins available.
"Also, why are all the vibrating functions sporadically everywhere and not under the centralized sound&display setting?"
use the switchpro widget and place it on your home screen. It offers you the ability to change important features on the phone on or off, right from your home screen without having to go into the menus. wifi/blutooth/gps/screentimeout/sound/vibrate/torch battery percentage are in there
"Why does auto-focus make a sound when you're in silent mode?!?!"
software issue, should be fixed. try a different camera app like camera360.
"Motorola's Stock UI is incredibly lame and irrelevant. I tried ADW and Launcher pro and they both hogged my precious battery life."
plenty of us use adw or lp with no issue. I used my device(LP) alot today and i am really liking the battery life i get, but i noticed this since day 1. i was coming from an incredible.
what your experiencing is apples restriction of multitasking on your model iphone. If we limit the droid X to only running 1 app at a time, then of course we will also get 30+ plus hours of battery. Its really a trade off, but not one that you dont have any options for. If you go into menu>battery settings you can give yourself more time. Going further into things, and reducing the frequency in which your apps sync and use data, can also increase battery life. Also keep in mind that live wallpapers also stress the battery.