After many tries and 2 Cliqs later cause i gave up and bought another phone. I finally got the settings right- Enjoy! I know I will.....
AT&T -APN SETTINGS
Internet Settings
MMS Settings
APN: wap.cingular
Proxy: [Leave Blank]
Port: [Leave Blank]
Username: WAP@CINGULARGPRS.COM - (use CAPS)
Password: CINGULAR1 - (use CAPS)
Server: [Leave Blank]
MMSC: http://mmsc.cingular.com
MMS Proxy: wireless.cingular.com
MMS Port: 80
MMS Protocol: [Leave Blank]
MCC: 310
MNC: 410
AT&T -APN SETTINGS
Internet Settings
MMS Settings
APN: wap.cingular
Proxy: [Leave Blank]
Port: [Leave Blank]
Username: WAP@CINGULARGPRS.COM - (use CAPS)
Password: CINGULAR1 - (use CAPS)
Server: [Leave Blank]
MMSC: http://mmsc.cingular.com
MMS Proxy: wireless.cingular.com
MMS Port: 80
MMS Protocol: [Leave Blank]
MCC: 310
MNC: 410