PFffft, not bloody likely. Single, free and somewhat lonely is better then being a miserable father to kids I never wanted.
Agreed. And who wants to be an unwanted kid?
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PFffft, not bloody likely. Single, free and somewhat lonely is better then being a miserable father to kids I never wanted.
Agreed. And who wants to be an unwanted kid?
Exactly, and there are FAAAAAAR to many unwanted and unloved kids in this world with piss poor excuses for fathers and I refuse to become part of that, even if it means I have to die alone. I'm better then that at least
Yep, that's what I was saying. I should have tried harder before they got the ring on their finger. Before then, all's fair. I know that now.Finding the right one at my age gets increasingly unlikely. I'm not gonna lie. I know some great and awesome women my age, but all of them are married. The smart guys snatched them up 6-7 years ago at the least.
At least you're realistic about it. If marriage is what you want, you're going to have to give up at least some of your "deal breakers". Those things work both ways, you know.Of course I'm a 32 yr old geek with limited social skills so I ain't exactly a catch myself.
If only more people had this attitude, that's why I waited until I was 35 to have a child, it's the unwanted, uncared for children that you usually see on the nightly news.
I've always been a believer in finding the one when you aren't looking.
Then again I'm the young 20-something who is in no rush
Exactly, and there are FAAAAAAR to many unwanted and unloved kids in this world with piss poor excuses for fathers and I refuse to become part of that, even if it means I have to die alone. I'm better then that at least
At least you're realistic about it. If marriage is what you want, you're going to have to give up at least some of your "deal breakers". Those things work both ways, you know.
One piece of advice that I heard was to find someone who's life is heading in the same direction as yours. Of course if your life is stalled at the moment, you need to take care of that first. I see that you're active in the political section. Tea Party, right? Try attending some events. Volunteer to host one at your house. That's a good way to break the ice and meet people who think like you do.
I don't know what hobbies or other interests you have, but it should go without saying that the ones that don't attract many women aren't likely to yield results. If you're short on hobbies, maybe it's time to pick a new one. Or take a night school class. Lots of middle aged folks in those.
It's only sad if you choose to make it that way.I don't disagree with that. It's a trade off. When you're younger you can wait around for someone who fills everything you're looking for. As you get older you get to the point where you take whatever happens to be left which is sad. It's true, but sad. You take whatever happens to be available and compromise what you wanted and you realize the person you're with is doing the same thing. Ugh. Like I said. Regrets.
So in other words, you want to live the life of the idle rich.I want to travel, see the world, experience things and make a crap ton of money in the process.
If it's not too personal, could you help me understand why you believe that?Well, to be fair I was never going to find a 20 something hottie even when I was a 20 something. Maybe my expectation of not being a father is unreasonable. I just know that I have no business being a father. Unreasonable or not, it is what it is. We all have our limitations. That's one of mine. I'm not cut out to be a dad.
Who's trying to "cut you off"?Yes, I would love to live the life of the idle rich. Why not? I've busted my hump and worked my butt off to get to where I am. Why not enjoy it? And why would people cut me off just because I'm successful?
If it's not too personal, could you help me understand why you believe that?
I'm not good w/kids. I have no patience for them. They speak in annoying high pitched voices, ask way too many questions and are short enough that they are below your normal line of vision so you can trip over them if you're not careful. Plus, they can be very needy. The fact that they're cute does not compensate for this. I am just not a kid person. Other people's kids I can sort of tolerate as long as they're well behaved, but some children are just little snots. Plus, they're basically walking germ buckets. And they cramp your life style to boot. I realize some people love kids and I say more power to them. Just not for me.
For the sake of perspective, how would you feel if you found out that people had such negative attitudes towards you? Would you agree and forever separate yourself from society? Would you think that you have some overriding qualities that make you worth someone's time?I'm not good w/kids. I have no patience for them. They speak in annoying high pitched voices, ask way too many questions and are short enough that they are below your normal line of vision so you can trip over them if you're not careful. Plus, they can be very needy. The fact that they're cute does not compensate for this. I am just not a kid person. Other people's kids I can sort of tolerate as long as they're well behaved, but some children are just little snots. Plus, they're basically walking germ buckets. And they cramp your life style to boot. I realize some people love kids and I say more power to them. Just not for me.
I haven't read all the responses so forgive me if I'm repeating. Here's my .02. Most people are gonna do what they're gonna do regardless of what other people say. Do what you think is best for you. If you meet someone fine, if not it sounds like you are doing just fine. I wouldn't sweat it that much. Being married isn't for everyone. I was married for 7 years and have been divorced for 19. I like the 19 better. I would pay my house off before I got married if you think that will keep you from that goal and if you do get married you should really get a prenup or all your hard work may be for nothing more than some others gain. Some of our female counter parts are quite sneaky and exceptional liars. I know first hand.
I kind of question single women in their 30s and wonder why they are still on the market. Yes, the bargain looks like a good one, but I wonder if there's something hiding.
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