I'd like opinions on something I've been struggling with. I'm not doing this as a poll because I want actual input on why you're for or against the idea. Okay, here goes...
If you've followed my long and emotional saga regarding my mother's death, you're already aware of what happened with the mortuary. If you haven't been following, here's the very short version: When they came to take my mom's body, they asked me if I wanted the shirt she was wearing returned to me, and I said "definitely." They hand wrote those instructions on a document, then handed it to me to sign, and I did. When we went to pick up Mom's ashes--AND the shirt--the shirt was nowhere to be seen. Turns out it was inadvertently cremated with Mom. I was actually speechless when the funeral director told me that. ME! speechless!
They've apologized up and down, told my husband that as a result of realizing what they'd done they had a long staff meeting [to discuss it and make sure it doesn't happen again], and so on. But none of that brings back Mom's shirt. I wanted it back. It was really important to me. And THEY'RE the ones who asked about it in the first place. When they did that, it led me to believe that this is part of their routine, just a normal, common thing they deal with all the time.
I don't know what to do. The more time that passes, the angrier everybody in my life is getting about this. I'm hurt...disappointed...sad...but I wouldn't say ANGRY. I may still be too numb from losing my mom, but I don't know.
So my question is, should I sue them? That's what everybody in my [real] life seems to be getting at. They're saying "they should compensate you somehow! they need to pay for this! it's inexcusable--they need to be held accountable!" I just don't know. I'm not a litigious person at all, and while I'm EXTREMELY saddened by what they did, I don't really know that suing them would be the right thing to do, or that it would be effective in teaching them a lesson. But...on the other hand...they royally screwed up. And there are no do-overs in a situation like this--nothing can be done to bring that shirt back.
Finally, the state's Cemetery and Funeral Bureau has provisions for filing complaints. I'll probably do that, but suing...I'm not so sure. What would you do? What do you think I should do?
If you've followed my long and emotional saga regarding my mother's death, you're already aware of what happened with the mortuary. If you haven't been following, here's the very short version: When they came to take my mom's body, they asked me if I wanted the shirt she was wearing returned to me, and I said "definitely." They hand wrote those instructions on a document, then handed it to me to sign, and I did. When we went to pick up Mom's ashes--AND the shirt--the shirt was nowhere to be seen. Turns out it was inadvertently cremated with Mom. I was actually speechless when the funeral director told me that. ME! speechless!
They've apologized up and down, told my husband that as a result of realizing what they'd done they had a long staff meeting [to discuss it and make sure it doesn't happen again], and so on. But none of that brings back Mom's shirt. I wanted it back. It was really important to me. And THEY'RE the ones who asked about it in the first place. When they did that, it led me to believe that this is part of their routine, just a normal, common thing they deal with all the time.
I don't know what to do. The more time that passes, the angrier everybody in my life is getting about this. I'm hurt...disappointed...sad...but I wouldn't say ANGRY. I may still be too numb from losing my mom, but I don't know.
So my question is, should I sue them? That's what everybody in my [real] life seems to be getting at. They're saying "they should compensate you somehow! they need to pay for this! it's inexcusable--they need to be held accountable!" I just don't know. I'm not a litigious person at all, and while I'm EXTREMELY saddened by what they did, I don't really know that suing them would be the right thing to do, or that it would be effective in teaching them a lesson. But...on the other hand...they royally screwed up. And there are no do-overs in a situation like this--nothing can be done to bring that shirt back.
Finally, the state's Cemetery and Funeral Bureau has provisions for filing complaints. I'll probably do that, but suing...I'm not so sure. What would you do? What do you think I should do?